gallery Dear Adoption, Tell My Mom Merry Christmas


Dear Adoption, Tell My Mom Merry Christmas

I don’t know if my mom celebrates Christmas because I don’t know who she is. I know she exists but I don’t know where she’s at.

Christmas and my birthday are the hardest times and are the times that I think about my mom the most.

I try thinking of meeting her except it’s too hard to really know what that would be like.

I think about my mom a lot and if we like the same stuff and if we both have brown eyes.

I think it’s possible that she doesn’t think about me like I think about her except I also think that it is impossible. I guess that I don’t really know.

If I could send her a Christmas card I would put my school picture in it and a picture of my family because I would want her to know that I am happy.

Except that I don’t want her to feel bad that I am happy because I still really miss her and I hope that my card would let her know that.

I want to tell her about school and volleyball. I want to talk to her about if she likes to dip her pizza in ranch. I think that I would want to live with her someday.

I don’t have her address and I don’t know who she is so I can’t really send her a card.

So someone tell my mom Merry Christmas from me because I don’t get to do that again this year.

This piece was submitted anonymously by an 11 year old adoptee who participated in a workshop hosted by Dear Adoption,. 


  1. 11 year old adoptee -between Yin and Yang …and like all of us, wants desperately to know…. Are you my Mother? Meanwhile, the system will do everything in its power to deny her her rights to know… TRISTE


  2. Thank you, Dear Adoption,for facilitating a worshop with young adoptees. They so need a voice.
    To the eleven year old who wrote this: your bravery is to be commended.

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  3. My heart aches for this young one. I so agree with Lenore. Thankful that there is a place for young adoptees to have a voice.

    I hope lottsa folks get some sense and grow some hearts to help the children back into their mother’s and father’s lives and to STOP unnecessary separations to begin with!

    Make things truly about the welfare of the child and not about those that want to be parents or “saviors”.

    How can they continue to say this is in the “best interest of the child”?

    I say it’s a damnably unhealthy approach to a child’s welfare.

    I lost my mother at 7 to her early death. That devastated my world. Before that? Yes my family was poor. Yes there was alcoholism and unwanted rage….but then, my Dad was adopted (i.e. lost his parents) and THAT is what blew MY family apart. No foolin’. Folks who think Aaaa-doption is soooo great really, truly need to think again! I don’t believe they realize what a horrible mess they are making with a lot of other people’s lives.

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  4. Thank you so much for being brave and sharing your story. Please know we always think of you and want to know you and be with you on Christmas. Hugs and good thoughts for you little one your mom is thinking of you too


  5. I bet your natural mom is missing you and thinking of you lots. You are such a loveable and kindhearted sounding girl that I hope you know how valuable, worthy, irreplaceable and special you are. I hope your mom and youcan meet sometime.


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