Dear Adoption, CAN YOU NOT HEAR ME?
Here is a list of things I have been saying daily which you cannot seem to hear.
Perhaps I shall shout so you can better hear me.
- I LOVE MY ADOPTIVE FAMILY AND I MISS EVERYTHING I MISSED WITH MY BIOLOGICAL FAMILY.
- How can I even miss something I have never known? Good question and thank you for pointing out that all I have missed is so great and so unknown, I cannot even KNOW what I am missing. You just assisted in proving my point.
- I HAVE BEEN CONNECTING TO PEOPLE ALL MY LIFE BUT I HAVE HAD TO WORK VERY HARD AT IT. IT IS A FULL TIME JOB.
- Indeed many people must work to connect and I am not interested in competing for who has it worse. I’m only stating that I have struggled with this as an adopted person. Is it not enough for me to state this challenge I have worked to overcome? Why must you point out that everything seems to be fine?
- I DO NOT WANT TO BE PART OF THE BIRTH MOTHER FIGHT.
- I’m well educated on adoption coercion. I have heard their stories of manipulation, fear, and being forced to sign while under the influence of high doses of medication. What happened to these birth mothers is unacceptable but it isn’t my doing. I have lost without any choice. Yeah Mothers should speak out and work for change but that is not my fight and that is okay.
- I DO NOT WANT TO BE TOLD TO BE GRATEFUL.
- Telling someone to be grateful for a loss of this magnitude is asinine.
- I DO NOT WANT ANYBODY TO TELL ME THAT MY LIFE IS BETTER THAN IT WOULD HAVE BEEN HAD I NOT BEEN ADOPTED.
- You do not know that my life is better any more than I yet you continue to state that with confidence. You sound like a moron.
- I AM DOING FINE AND WELL. WHEN I TALK ABOUT ADOPTION YOU SHOULD LISTEN OR WALK AWAY (EITHER ARE ACCEPTABLE).
- Some days I lose myself in loss and grief. Some days I swim in gratitude for the people and the things I have. Many of my days are lived being wholly enveloped by all the good and all the hard. Allow me to be and to feel. This is my life and experience, after all.
CAN YOU HEAR ME?