Dear Adoption, You Don’t Define Me
You don’t define me even though you stole me from my birth mom and she didn’t even have a chance to see me after she gave birth to me.
You don’t define me even though I was never allowed to discuss you as a child because my adopted mom was so protective and fearful of allowing me to share my feelings openly.
You don’t define me just because I had a positive adoption experience and was brought up in a loving home. I still struggled to find a connection to my adopted mother and I lost my adopted dad when I was 4 years old to cancer…a loss I still grieve.
You gave me a fake birth certificate with a new name and new parents to live with when I was 6 weeks old but you don’t define me.
You took a young girl’s first born son away from her and never gave her the chance to nurture her boy but you don’t define me because today I have a wonderful relationship with my birth mom.
Growing up, I had to suppress so many emotions that I struggled with from abandonment to loneliness and fear of people I loved leaving me but today you don’t define me.
You don’t define me because now I have a wife and son who love me and family that cares about me. Ive found my birth family and they are wonderful people and the relationship I have with them today is something I wouldn’t trade for anything.
Yes adoption, you took a lot from me but I stand today by the almighty grace of God! I am His child and I’ve been brought into His family and that can’t be taken away!
Adoption…You don’t define me!