So often, the most well intended words can have a harsh impact when delivered by someone unfamiliar with being an adoptee. DearAdoption.com desires to create a safer, more comfortable world for adoptees as they grow up. In this space we will list words, phrases, and statements you may want to avoid. You may not agree with everything listed here and that is okay; we’re all different and words affect us differently. You know your child best. Simply use this as a general guide.