Dear Adoption, We Rise
The ways in which the adoptee community has risen in 2017 are astonishing. We’ve seen films, read books, perused articles and social media posts; we’ve been struck by memes, conferences, and have witnessed a continuity of adopted people finding their individual voices. We’ve seen adoptees encourage one another and build a tightly knit, thriving, hope filled community.
We’ve done all this while receiving the same push back we have for decades, but what has inspired me the most is how strong we’ve stood despite the resistance.
Each story shared at Dear Adoption, is the personal lived experience of each individual adoptee. If you haven’t shared your story and exposed yourself in this way, you cannot imagine the deep level of vulnerability connected to finally revealing hidden stories and feelings from within. That any non-adopted person still finds it acceptable to question the lived experience of any adoptee is shocking and, frankly, cruel. And yet, many continue to do so. And yet, we continue to rise. We continue elevating adoptee voices in order to reshape the narrow minded view society has held regarding adoption since it’s inception.
Many adoptees have negative feelings surrounding adoption.
Many adoptees have positive feelings surrounding adoption.
Many adoptees, have both negative and positive feelings and spend their days ping ponging back and forth from the good and the bad; from the gains and the losses.
At Dear Adoption, what matters is that adoptees are speaking on their own behalf. Adoptees have proven a level of resilience, determination, and fortitude I, personally, find awe-inspiring.
At Dear Adoption, we aren’t asking anyone to agree with our individual stances on adoption. The heart of Dear Adoption, is that all adoptees are heard. One of our writers frequently says, “Just Listen”. Listening seems so simple, but it’s quite complex, because to truly listen you must lay down your own experience and receive the experience being shared before you. Listening can also be quite easy if you’re willing to pause and recognize each person is the expert on their own lived experience. When adoptees speak their experiences and the opinions they’ve formed based on those experiences, we need to hear them.
The Adoptee Movement we’ve launched and built together at Dear Adoption, is wild and powerful and wondrous. Our rise is irrepressible, uncontainable.
We’re fiercely determined to speak and give greater depths of insight into the lives of the adopted. The Adoptee Movement is life changing, life saving, and flourishing far beyond our humble hopes.
We rise though we’re weary. We rise though we’re often unheard. We rise amidst tumultuousness, isolation, and fear.
We rise because we won’t be buried.